Friday, December 3, 2010

American Tradition....really???

Okay, now I'm questioning why I get up early during the week to get my three children ready for school and I'm able to get myself ready for school, which I have everyday except Fridays....and every Friday I STILL have to get up early to get the children off to school and I can't sleep in???

I don't know about any of you but I'm TIRED of American tradition. Why is the wife responsible for everyone under the sun? Who is responsible for her? Why isn't there someone to CONSTANTLY remind me to take out my clothes for the next day, brush my teeth, clean my room? Forget remind me, why not just do it for me? Aren't we mothers ENTITLED to some things too? Oh, that's right, we gave birth and are naturally nurturing and blah, blah, blah.

I'm so very tired of hearing of hearing what is traditionally expected of a woman/mother. Okay, this is the venting paragraph, so if you'd rather not hear it, then skip to the next paragraph. Why is it expected that I'm going to get the kids up for school everyday? Why do I have to keep track of everyone's before/after school programs? Why do I have to make most of the doctors appointments around here? Funny, how I notice everyone else's dirty clothes and can wash them before I start seeing people w/the same 4 day old shirt on, and not one person here can even OFFER to do mine. Why do people around here act as if I am responsible for cleaning everyone's room b/c they are too lazy to do it? MY room doesn't even stay clean, even though I try to make a concerted effort to keep it that way....I'm so tired of dividing household chores between the children, ONLY to have them get so lazy that other adults in this house see that they don't get done, get tired of it, then either CLEAN IT FOR the children and THEN come to me w/it, OR just come to me with...CHERYL, YOU NEED TO blah, blah, blah or CHERYL, why is this blah, blah, blah. Or, I'll get attitudes from people if I even MENTION the fact that something needs to be cleaned or picked up or moved and I remind them that I'm NOT doing it for them. Then DAYS LATER, when it's not done (b/c I REFUSE TO) either another adult will do it and come to me w/what they did b/c someone couldn't or I get...I KNOW, CHERYL or I ALREADY KNOW, Ma when I remind them ONCE AGAIN!
How is it that I was raised to do whatever was w/in my power to take care of my responsibilities? There was no laziness allowed. No one cleaned my room for me. No one did my clothes. No one helped me take care of any of my animals. No one, back in tha days or even now say...I'll get that for you Cheryl/Ma, or I'll put that away or I'll clean that up, don't worry about it, you do enough around here. Nope, probably never hear that and if I do, it's only b/c someone read this, so don't bother b/c I won't believe you. Just keepin' it real! I just find it amazing what so many people depend on me for. What happened to being independent? What happened to teaching responsibility? What happened to equally raising children? What happened to sharing responsibilities? Where did all this entitlement come from that these children have today? (Well, think they have, anyway)

I'm tired of the typical American tradition that says the mother is the one who pretty much does it all. This is the way I see it. It takes two people to have children, so TWO people should equally share in raising them, and that includes getting up w/them in the morning, whether or not one or both parents have to be up at that time or not! Whatever happened to--It takes a village to raise a child???? That implies help to me...oh is that why that phrase isn't used anymore? (Everyone is out for self?) Like I said, it's unfair for so much responsibility to be placed on women. Now, hold on...If you're a woman who has pushed her children's father (relatives) away for your own selfish reasons (you women ARE out there, 'cause I know at least 3 of you!), then NONE of this counts for you. You dug your own holes and it's too late to get out. Don't look for me to hand you the rope to climb out, ROFL!!!

So, I'm sure you're asking yourself by now...what happened to her to put her in this mood? Or, you might be she moving out of the country now? The answer to both questions is nothing/no. This blog is a place for Ms. Chae to release feelings and that is exactly what I just did. I'm sure people can relate but just don't quite know how to say it, or just aren't the type of people who can handle confrontation, so then just read it here and shake your head in silence if you agree.

Okay, I feel better now. It's 8:59am.....last child is on the what?